Monday, March 25, 2013

Why Alpha Males Seduce Women Easier Than Non-Alpha Males

Some guys question the idea that alpha males have an easier time seducing women than non-alpha males and I guess I understand where that skepticism comes from. Just coming from a logical viewpoint, it might not make a lot of sense as to why it would be so much easier for an alpha male to be able to seduce a woman, but it is something that you are going to see a lot of evidence of, if you get down in the trenches and see what happens in the bars and the clubs. It's not the guys who make great partners from a logical point of view that end up attracting the attention of women, it's the guys who have that natural alpha male vibe.

Here are some reasons why it goes down like that:

1. Alpha males don't wait for a woman to come to them, they go and approach her.

In a dream world, it might be nice to imagine that being the guy, women would be the ones to approach you. Now, that does happen to some guys every now and again. However, those are almost always still the alpha males. The reality is that if you want to be able to get women into bed, you can't wait for them to come to you. You'll be waiting a LONG time in most cases. And if you don't give off the impression that you really are an alpha male, chances are it will never come.

2. They don't bring the party down, they make it livelier.

What a lot of men don't realize is that when they go to approach a woman with horrible energy and equally horrible body language, they bring down the party. They are a drag. Guys who are alpha males don't do that. They make things more fun, they make them livelier and women like that. Women like to go out and come across a guy who is going to make their night more fun and more enjoyable. And the more enjoyable and fun that you make the night for her, the more likely it is that she is going to want to end the night with you.

3. They don't fear escalation, they embrace it.

If you are the kind of guy who is a little fearful of having to take things to that next level with a woman, that is something that has to change like right now. You can't expect the woman to put the moves on you, you have to be able to put the moves on her. Alpha males are leaders and they know how to lead a woman into seduction and that is the thing that you have to be able to do. You can't fear escalation, you have to want to escalate and enjoy the process.

Are you ready to learn the way of the alpha male so that you can seduce women easily?

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Copyright (c) 2013 Chris G Tyler.  All Rights Reserved.

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Thursday, August 30, 2012

Living in the House of Yes

I grew up hearing "NO" a lot. As much as I rebelled against the ideas that I can't have what I want, that deprivation is somehow noble, and that I certainly can't have it all, I internalized those ideas and lived them out for years and years.

Yet a part of me always knew it wasn't true. I think our true self wants to do it all, to be free, to explore and expand and its sane voice gets buried under all of these false ideas we learn from our parents and people around us who are in their own story about deprivation.

I remember my former girlfriend consciously beginning to say "Yes" to herself because she had learned and heard that "NO" so much in her upbringing. She began having as many beverages as she wanted at dinner. She took herself shopping and splurged. She began looking for all of the ways she could say "Yes" to herself and give herself what her parents had not given or been able to give her. It brought a spirit of abundance to her life in small and bigger ways, and by association, to mine.

Yet a part of me rebelled, even then. I thought she was overindulgent. It was unnecessary. I wasn't ready to say "Yes" like that yet. I was still in my old story.

Then I got to the place where I was done with that big bold NO. I decided I wasn't going to be deprived anymore of the love, sex, money, successes and life experiences I had kept away. Why keep doing that? It wasn't noble. It was miserable.

That deprivation rolls over into so many areas of your life. How you hold back and keep yourself in a state of starvation in your love relationships, in your daily living, in your work, in your creativity. It becomes a "treat" to do something you WANT to do. You tell yourself "I deserve it" as if you have to do something to earn it. But it's already yours. You just need to declare it and accept it. The universe is an abundant place. It doesn't set out to make you feel deprived.

This isn't to say every "yes" is a healthy "yes". You can overdo food, alcohol, drug use, the gym, socializing, technology, distractions. Sometimes you need to keep it simple. Stay home and connect to yourself. Manage your weight well. Not succumb to the addictions that plague you. Boundaries are important. And yet healthy boundaries can be set while not dropping down into the pits of deprivation that make you want hard and feel like you are suffering.

If you grew up in a family where there was a state of deprivation, there is no way you don't take on that deprivation story one way or another. It really plagues you when you keep people's love away and block yourself from having the closeness and kindness you really want to be able to give yourself. No one else will really be able to give it to you as long as you are bargaining with your own demons about having or not having.

Many of us did not grow up in the "House of Yes". I choose to live in that house as much as possible now. If you've ever done improv, you know the one rule is that when an offer is made, the answer is always "yes". "Yes, and... " No "buts". No blocking. Accepting, embracing.

What would it mean to start saying "Yes" to yourself and to the offers that are made to you? How could you live a fully expressed and experienced life in the "House of Yes" and possibility? How could you begin to truly embrace abundance and expansion in your life, relationships and sexuality? In your checking account? In your health? Where in your life do you need to start living in your "yes"?

Please comment and let us know on my blog!

Amy Jo Goddard thrives on helping people develop sexually empowered lives, deeper intimate relationships, more abundance and more pleasurable sex. A sexuality educator, trainer, author, performing artist and activist, she travels to colleges, universities, communities and conferences teaching workshops and speaking about sexuality. She has taught workshops at such schools as Barnard College, Princeton University, Vassar College, NYU, & Gallaudet University. A professional trainer of sexuality professionals, medical students, college students and youth for fifteen years, she has taught courses at the City University of New York and the University of California at Santa Barbara. Amy Jo is co-author of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men and contributing Author of All About Sex, among other writings. She has worked in various women's and queer communities as an activist and advocate. Amy Jo maintains a private sex coaching practice and facilitates her six month sexuality program for women, The Sexually Empowered Life, in New York City. She can be found online at and

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Tuesday, July 31, 2012

How Do You Make a Woman See You As Being a Sexual Being?

If you have ever been in a situation where you were on a date with a woman and it was clear that she just did not see you in a sexual way at all, or if you have ever been in a situation where you are talking to a woman and you want her to want you, but you are sure that she does not feel that way about you - you know that you have to be able to make her see you as a sexual being. If you don't achieve that, then there really isn't any hope at all for you. So, what are you going to do and how are you going to be able to make a woman see you as a sexual being?

In order to be able to do that, then you have to first be able to make yourself believe that you are a sexual being. If you are the kind of guy who is always talking down about your ability to make a woman feel sexual attraction towards you, that needs to stop. You need to raise your confidence before you are really going to be able to make someone else see you in that way.

Okay, now that the little self help pep talk is over, let's get down to some of the more alluring things that you need to do:

1. You need to find a way to drop in a little bit of sexual humor into the conversation.

Most guys get in trouble when they try to talk sexually to a woman because of the way that they are doing it. They are totally serious and they haven't yet been able to establish that kind of a vibe with the woman they are talking to and that is why it doesn't seem to have the effect that they want it to have. When you use just a little bit of humor in there, it changes everything and it will make it a lot easier to direct the conversation towards a bit of flirting sexually with a woman without it feeling weird or awkward.

2. You need to talk highly about yourself without it sounding like you are cocky or trying to be arrogant.

There is a really fine line between mentioning things that make you look good to a woman and outright bragging or trying to be really cocky. This is a line that you need to be careful that you don't cross, because when you come off like an arrogant or cocky kind of guy, it makes you look kind of insecure and that's not good. On the other hand, when you are able to talk highly about yourself without it being too "look at me" - then that can have a pretty nice effect on a woman.

3. You definitely need to find a way to make her feel like you are going to be a fun time if things lead towards the bedroom.

It can be hard to give a woman this kind of an impression, that's for sure. However, there are some ways that you can kind of give her a signal or an inkling that you are going to be a good time in the bedroom and that is something that you really need to be able to do if you want to make her see you as a sexual being that she wants to be with.

If you ever want to be able to make women want you sexually - you have to learn to make them see you as a sexual being.

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Copyright © 2012 Chris G. Tyler All Rights Reserved.

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Sunday, July 29, 2012

Natural Sexual Supplements for a Healthy Sex Life

Sex is important in a relationship for many reasons. Obviously there are many factors to a relationship and on the whole, sex may only have a small percentage compared to other factors of a couple's life together, yet that small percentage is important.

Just as the relationship changes and evolves, so does a couple's sex life. Generally speaking, couples will have more sex at the beginning of the relationship and this will dwindle throughout the course of the couple's lives together. The amount of sex each couple has will differ and there is no set standard for how much sex anybody should be having. However, one thing is always true: if one or both partners are unsatisfied with the amount of sex being had for whatever reason, then arguments are sure to begin. It is therefore imperative to maintain a healthy sex life.

A healthy sex life has a number of benefits:

- Couples experience a feeling of intimacy during and immediately after sex which benefits and strengthens the relationship.

- Sex is a great way to boost self-confidence.

- Although it is no substitute for a workout, sex gets the heart and blood pumping and regular amounts of it help to keep both healthy.

Quality of your Sex Life

Whilst the amount of sex each couple has may differ, the quality of that sex is important to all. Sexual dysfunctions of any kind can have an extremely negative impact on a relationship. If the couple are unable to talk about their problems in this department it is very easy for the frustration and irritation to completely take over and result in the couple separating in severe cases.

In the same way that people take vitamin supplements to keep their body healthy, sexual supplements help maintain a healthy sex life.

How do they work?

Natural sexual supplements combine a measured amount of herbs and plant extracts from around the world, most of which have actually been recognized and used for many years in different traditional medicines.

Each herb, plant, mineral or vitamin is measured precisely and used in conjunction with others that complement each other in order to provide the user with the tools to make the most out of each sexual experience.

One pill is taken daily. Some of the chemical versions of some pills are known for working slightly quicker, but they come with higher risks because of the ingredients. Numerous side-effects are associated with such drugs such as:

- Nausea

- Headache

- Heart attack

- Stroke

- Low blood pressure

However, the natural supplements may take slightly more time to work their way through the system as they haven't got harsh chemicals pushing them, but they are far safer to use. Once the ingredients begin to work in the body, all that needs to be done is to continue taking one small pill each day for a vast improvement on sexual function to be seen and enjoyed by the user.

How do sexual supplements help?

To ensure good quality and healthy amounts of sex to be enjoyed by both partners, natural sexual supplements aim to combat problems such as:

Erectile dysfunction - Defined by men who have problems either gaining an erection in the first place, maintaining an erection throughout intercourse or suffering from weak erections. Pills help to pump blood into the penis making the erection firmer.

Premature ejaculation - Defined by men who regularly reach the point of ejaculation before they or their partners would like them to. This time frame varies for each couple. Supplements use a variety of different ingredients known to help with this matter by slowing the ejaculation process down.

Loss of libido - Natural aphrodisiacs are abundant in the world and sexual supplements are composed of the right quantities of some of these famous aphrodisiacs in order to complement the other ingredients and give a potent boost to the sex drive.

Lack of stamina - Energy giving ingredients are included to prolong stamina and enhance men's abilities to last longer. The longer they last, the more likely it is that their partners are fulfilled, something which many studies have shown men care about. This too is a brilliant confidence booster and comes round full circle to help with some of the other sexual dysfunctions which men might be experiencing.

Low ejaculate amount - Proteins and minerals are used to help produce more ejaculate fluid. The greater the amount of fluid, the more contractions there are as the man climaxes. The increased contractions make for a much more intense climax. In addition to this, increased amount of semen may also mean higher levels of sperm, increasing male fertility. This is not guaranteed but could well be a positive side-effect of the supplements.

Who can use these supplements?

The supplements which have all natural ingredients can be used by men who are worried about the quality of their sex life. The pills will work alongside the body in a gentle way to enhance sexual performance rather than force functionality with chemicals.

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Saturday, July 28, 2012

Opening Up to Possibility With Sex Play

Ever since I first came across that quote by Buber, I have kept it on one of my altars at home, a daily reminder of one of my core values. Play.

Remember, as a kid, the worlds you could create just by believing in the possibility they could exist? I remember making tents with blankets around the dining room table and chairs and inside appeared a special world where all sorts of magical things could happen. Creating plays with friends where we assigned roles and played them out. Using my imagination as a writer, even as a young kid to tell stories. Daring and trying things that seemed wild and imaginative, just to see what would happen. This was a world of tremendously powerful fantasy.

What are your memories of play? More importantly, when did you learn to stop doing that? "Quit your playing!" Did you hear that one? I did.

As children we instinctively live in possibility. Possibilities are absolutely endless until someone comes along, (often well-meaning), and tells you to stop. They tell you it's not okay to play, that you need to "grow up." That you need to stop "fooling around." You begin to internalize the idea that to play is to be immature. It's not serious enough or smart enough, and most important, it makes you vulnerable, because people see parts of you that are tender and sweet, the parts of you that know how to dream, when you play. And you can't dream that big because you need to stay safe or in your place, where ever that is.

Many of us forget how to dream and live in possibility in our lives at large, and if you've forgotten how to dream and be in the possibility of your becoming and experiencing, then your sexual life is also going to become very limited.

I believe one of the most important secrets to having a joyful, fulfilling sexual life with longevity is play. Sexuality is not meant to be rote, routine or predictable, but many of us end up in sexual lives where we feel like that. Sometimes you feel bad about it, but you don't know what to do about it.

I have had the joy of being a part of many sexual communities and events where people play: we live in possibility and we create elaborate plays or "scenes" where wild things can happen in a safe environment. I have learned a tremendous amount about myself and others by being in these playful sexual communities, where truly, anything is possible, and fantasy is encouraged and supported. Whether you do it in a larger community context or in your own private life, learning to play again will bring you the joy, lighthearted fun and creative expression that you are meant to have.

To have an intentionally playful sex life does many things for you. It also requires something from you. When you open yourself up to play, you get to explore and experience new things, new kinds of pleasure, new roles, new connection, new intimacy and lots of giggles. You get to bring out that little kid inside of you who knew how to do it. Most people feel pretty protective of that little kid. I know I do. So you might worry about what's going to happen to your little one if you bring it out to play and you might fear they will get shut down again.

That kid is one of the best tools you have to keep your sex life fun, light, adventurous and playful. And, it requires that you take a risk and bring it out, let it explore new terrain or suggest things that might not feel safe. Ask yourself which is greater, the risk of introducing something new into your sexual life and being in a playful space with your lover(s), or keeping yourself from doing so and not shaking things up. Weigh your risk. And remember that without taking the risk, you'll never truly know what is possible.

Your Sexual Empowerment Assignment:

Make a list of 5-10 things you would like to explore, expand on, or try on in your sex life. A role you'd like to play. A sex act you'd like to try. A power dynamic you want to step into. DO NOT sit there telling yourself all the reasons why you can't do it or all the things you just know your partner will say about it if you ever spoke your list aloud. Just light a candle, come into the quiet or put on a piece of sexy music and let your fantasies run wild and make your list from a place of possibility. You can decide later how you can make it happen or whether you will take the risk. For now, just give this moment of sexual possibility and play to yourself.

Amy Jo Goddard thrives on helping people develop sexually empowered lives, deeper intimate relationships, more abundance and more pleasurable sex. A sexuality educator, trainer, author, performing artist and activist, she travels to colleges, universities, communities and conferences teaching workshops and speaking about sexuality. She has taught workshops at such schools as Barnard College, Princeton University, Vassar College, NYU, & Gallaudet University. A professional trainer of sexuality professionals, medical students, college students and youth for fifteen years, she has taught courses at the City University of New York and the University of California at Santa Barbara. Amy Jo is co-author of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men and contributing Author of All About Sex, among other writings. She has worked in various women's and queer communities as an activist and advocate. Amy Jo maintains a private sex coaching practice and facilitates her six month sexuality program for women, The Sexually Empowered Life, in New York City. She can be found online at and

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Friday, July 27, 2012

Performance Anxiety For Swingers

Whether you are a swinger or not, it is normal for guys to wonder about their sexual performance. We all want to be good at sex and to be confident that we are giving the ladies maximum pleasure. I am sure I am not alone when I say that I am conscious of my performance whenever I have sex. Not to the point that I am so focussed on that and that I forget about concentrating on the lady I am playing with, but it is in the back of my mind that I want to leave her with a smile on her face after we have finished playing.

A lot of this is in the head and not necessarily caused by something physical. One big key to help you to overcome any form of performance anxiety is to remember is that if you are in a swinging scenario then the lady is obviously into you and likes you enough to allow you to play with her. She has accepted you for who and what you are and wants to take things further with you. So that should give you enough reason to grow in confidence and be able to relax knowing that she is actually into you and is looking forward to continuing. So don't over think what is happening and what you are doing.

If you are in a swinging situation, swap in a location that is most comfortable for you. Whether it is someone's house or some other private location where you won't have to worry about others around who may be watching you. If you are at a swinger's resort or a swinger's party where there is sex happening left right and centre then this may also increase your anxiety levels. If you have been with this person before and you are feeling comfortable with her, then you may want to get into the more adventurous scenarios such as having sex in front of others eventually, but don't just jump straight into the public setting if you think it will add to your performance anxiety.

As much as we would all love to stay hard and erect all night long, we need to accept the facts that guys just cannot keep an erection going for hours and hours on end. Well - there may be a very lucky few who can! We all wish that we could do that but unfortunately that is not going to happen. You want the experience to last so just pace yourself through the encounter and take things slowly. If you are with someone new for the first time then try to get to know her and play the game of trying to work out what she likes and doesn't like. Use your arsenal of oral and manual tricks and skills and see which ones are working out to be most effective. Treat that as part of the game and the fun of the experience.

Here is a big tip for you guys - go easy on the alcohol! By all means have a drink or 2 to help you to calm those nerves, but stay in control. There are countless stories and occasions of guys who have been unable to perform properly because they had a limp dick due to the excess alcohol. Don't let the drink be the cause of your poor performance and subsequent apologies!

So there are a few words of wisdom to help you deal with the performance anxiety that we all encounter at some point in our lives.

To learn more about how to deal with performance anxiety whilst swinging, have a look at and read about how to overcome this condition.

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