Performance Anxiety For Swingers

Whether you are a swinger or not, it is normal for guys to wonder about their sexual performance. We all want to be good at sex and to be confident that we are giving the ladies maximum pleasure. I am sure I am not alone when I say that I am conscious of my performance whenever I have sex. Not to the point that I am so focussed on that and that I forget about concentrating on the lady I am playing with, but it is in the back of my mind that I want to leave her with a smile on her face after we have finished playing.

A lot of this is in the head and not necessarily caused by something physical. One big key to help you to overcome any form of performance anxiety is to remember is that if you are in a swinging scenario then the lady is obviously into you and likes you enough to allow you to play with her. She has accepted you for who and what you are and wants to take things further with you. So that should give you enough reason to grow in confidence and be able to relax knowing that she is actually into you and is looking forward to continuing. So don't over think what is happening and what you are doing.

If you are in a swinging situation, swap in a location that is most comfortable for you. Whether it is someone's house or some other private location where you won't have to worry about others around who may be watching you. If you are at a swinger's resort or a swinger's party where there is sex happening left right and centre then this may also increase your anxiety levels. If you have been with this person before and you are feeling comfortable with her, then you may want to get into the more adventurous scenarios such as having sex in front of others eventually, but don't just jump straight into the public setting if you think it will add to your performance anxiety.

As much as we would all love to stay hard and erect all night long, we need to accept the facts that guys just cannot keep an erection going for hours and hours on end. Well - there may be a very lucky few who can! We all wish that we could do that but unfortunately that is not going to happen. You want the experience to last so just pace yourself through the encounter and take things slowly. If you are with someone new for the first time then try to get to know her and play the game of trying to work out what she likes and doesn't like. Use your arsenal of oral and manual tricks and skills and see which ones are working out to be most effective. Treat that as part of the game and the fun of the experience.

Here is a big tip for you guys - go easy on the alcohol! By all means have a drink or 2 to help you to calm those nerves, but stay in control. There are countless stories and occasions of guys who have been unable to perform properly because they had a limp dick due to the excess alcohol. Don't let the drink be the cause of your poor performance and subsequent apologies!

So there are a few words of wisdom to help you deal with the performance anxiety that we all encounter at some point in our lives.

To learn more about how to deal with performance anxiety whilst swinging, have a look at http://www.swinglifestyles.net/category/better-sex/ and read about how to overcome this condition.

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Performance Anxiety - How To Overcome It And Give Your Woman Incredible Sexual Pleasure

Many men suffer from Performance Anxiety.

This often leads to PREMATURE EJACULATION and even to some men avoiding having sex because they are too worried about how they will perform.

If you have had performance anxiety issues in the bedroom, please read on carefully because this may be the most important thing you've ever read...

Stop Putting So Much Pressure On Yourself

I know this is easier said than done, but the reality is that the more you worry about your 'performance' in the bedroom, the worse you will make your problem.

What you need to do is change your SEXUAL FOCUS.

Instead of constantly thinking about how long you are going to last, instead focus on:

Your Woman's Pleasure

Let me give you a simple idea -- one that I share with many of my male clients. And by the way -- this really works...

Before you even take your trousers/pants off...

Give your woman a CLITORAL ORGASM.

Then give her two vaginal orgasms.

Do that and she'll be incredibly SEXUALLY SATISFIED.

The outcome of this technique is that it relieves you of the 'pressure to perform' that you have been suffering from.

Then what happens next is usually that when you do have intercourse, because you know that you've already given your woman serious sexual pleasure -- you'll feel less stressed about your own performance and you'll end up LASTING LONGER without even trying.

Nice.

So to re-cap:

- Gain control of your sexual focus

- Focus on your woman's sexual pleasure

- Before you get naked give her 3 orgasms (1 clitoral and 2 vaginal)

- This will take the pressure off your own performance and help you to LAST LONGER

How To Last Even Longer

Another great technique for overcoming your performance anxiety and lasting longer is to master the art of DEEP BREATHING.

To do this you need to tune into your breathing during sexual interactions.

What you'll quickly notice is that the more turned on you are and the closer you get to 'blowing your load', the shallower and quicker your breathing gets.

The solution is to gain control of your breathing, BREATHE DEEPER and breathe SLOWER.

Do this and it becomes remarkably easy to cure premature ejaculation and last a lot longer.

If you do all that I have suggested in this article -- you'll end up being a MUCH BETTER LOVER.

By the way -- to learn more about being a better lover (including how to give your woman VAGINAL ORGASMS),
click HERE

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