Swingers look just like everyday people. So when you next visit the local shopping centre, anyone you see there could be a swinger. That is what swingers really look like - just your regular everyday person because that is what they are when they are not swinging.
The level of fitness and body shape / size of individuals varies greatly in the swinging lifestyle. There is every shape and size imaginable but the bottom line is that there definitely is someone for everyone who is looking. Some people do take very good care of themselves by eating well and exercising regularly. But it comes down to how comfortable you are in your own skin and the air of confidence you have. If you are comfortable with your own body appearance then that will show and your playmates will also notice.
Some swingers can tend to be a bit self-conscious of their bodies due to the fact that at some point in the near future they are going to be in a hot tub or club naked with others around them. So they feel the need to not get complacent with their appearance and to do something to keep themselves always looking good. Whether that be maintaining a tan or simply eating well and doing some regular exercise.
And some swingers tend to be self-critical when it comes to physical appearance. Again, we are going to be naked in front of other people so some swingers actually do care about this and will make effort to look after themselves, or take extra time to prepare for meeting up with others (eg: trimming hair, being extra clean etc... )
But regardless of how good shape you think you are in, there will be some in the lifestyle who will not find you attractive. Then again there will be some you find attractive and some you will not. Just like the outside life, there are personal preferences and we all have them, so don't take offence if someone in the lifestyle does not find you attractive.
Think back to when you were first dating someone. How did you look after your appearance then? Did you do any special grooming? Did you work extra hard at the gym for a while? Wear any special clothes? Well, swinging can be looked at in a similar context in that you are constantly meeting up with new people and you want to do your best to keep the odds in your favour of a positive outcome and some fun times ahead!
One of the best tips for you to improve your appearance is to keep your self-confidence high and to let it show - but just don't overdo it. When you meet people, do it in a confident manner instead of a timid manner. Even if you are not feeling confident you could 'fake it until you make it'. Act confident and you will be confident and you will be far more attractive to others.
The most important thing to know is that there are people in the lifestyle who are great fun to be around and then there are people who simply are not. Personal fitness has got nothing to do with how pleasant a character you are. If a couple is fun to be around then others are more likely to want to spend time with them. If you can have a few laughs and have decent conversation with the other couples, then you are more likely to enjoy your time spent with them and this will make them more attractive.
Most swinging couples would rather spend intimate time playing with others who are great people but not so physically attractive, than to play with attractive looking people who are not fun to be around.
Enjoy your time playing with those who are attracted to you and just forget about the ones who are not. At the end of the day 'attractiveness' is subjective.
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