The magic words said during sex that take you and your man to the highest levels of excitement are what we refer to as dirty talking. When it comes to what actually makes sex good, we could make a list that never ends. It is how you look at each other, how you touch each other, the positions that you try, parts of the body you focus on, what you say and how you say it.
Scientifically speaking, dirty talking stimulates the transmission of dopamine. Dopamine plays a major role in sexual excitement. According to Ian Kerner, holder of PhD and author of Passionista, it enhances the emotional and physical intensity of sex.
You already know that physical factors are actually what make sex great. However, to improve it, you need to open up and communicate in other ways besides touching. Talking dirty is not something that you can try once and perfect it, it takes experience among other things to make it work. For most girls, the greatest challenge is choosing the right phrases to use. Saying "F*** me harder, faster" may be what they feel they should say but how do they phrase it without making it sound unreal and porn star-ish?
According to Logan Levkoff, a PhD Sexologist based in New York, most girls are not sure what to say that sounds sexy so they just choose not to say anything. Because of this, they miss out on the pleasure that dirty talking brings - and this is not right.
A few days ago, I listed on a Sirius Cosmo radio show where the presenter was encouraging men to call in and answer the question: Which phrases gets them hotter (or harder) the most. The answer was "I'm coming". These two words are however only necessary when you are actually about to orgasm, it gives him the pleasure of knowing that he is actually pleasing you and that he is doing something right.
There are phrases you can use for your pleasure and those that you can use for his pleasure. The best thing to do is to know which ones fall on the middle ground and perfect their use. Also, men are different - some would just prefer that you moan and keep the naughtiness to the minimum while others may want you to play a fantasy porn star with all the vulgar words and phrases you can think of. Which phrases turn your man on? Which ones keep him going? Which ones make him cum faster? Well, it is your duty to find out!
Maya is a dirty girl, and she is sharing some of the best dirty talk tips with you. There however is a lot more you need to know about talking dirty to improve your sex life and relationship. Go to http://www.learn-to-talk-dirty.com/ to find professional advice, tips and guidelines on talking dirty.
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