Apart from the obvious moral issues raised by sexual intercourse at whatever level and place it is happening, the act of having carnal knowledge of a woman or man carries with it great responsibilities that seem largely ignored by those who indulge in it.
My position is that there is no justifiable reason for having sexual intercourse with a woman or man who is not your legally and lawfully wedded spouse.
However, given the permissiveness and perversion of our times, and the plain fact that we know that a lot of sexual intercourse is going on among many people who have no legitimacy to have sexual intercourse, it has become important that we stop and analyze sex and responsibility. This is done in the hope that one or two young persons and some adults may be assisted to deal with sexual issues with the sense of responsibility it requires.
The news media is replete with stories of both morally accepted sexual activities and of course, lots of illicit sexual intercourse around us. Presently and sadly too, sexual intercourse is no longer the preserve of the legally and lawfully married. It has become a game that young people including preteens are engaged in and sometimes flagrantly, albeit to their individual and societal detriment.
Here are some of the common challenges those who are engaged in sexual intercourse face. Even those who are legally and lawfully married need to pay attention to these issues. Some of these issues are of positive nature and some of negative nature. Nevertheless, all these challenges are simply some of the responsibilities that those who take part in sexual pleasure must answer to.
• Pregnancy
• Unwanted pregnancy
• Unplanned Marriage
• Diseases
• Emotional imbalance
• Sorrow
• Loss of self-esteem
• Shyness
• Dishonour
• Dependence
• Pain
A sense of responsibility along the points outlined above would considerably assist all concerned especially young women who obviously have more to lose to handle their sexual nature with care, deference and decorum. It would help men and boys engaging in sexual intercourse to consider the consequences before doing so.
When these teenage girls get pregnant, they are usually on their own, abandoned because the young man they had the sexual intercourse with is either a social or biological minor who cannot shoulder the responsibility of pregnancy. Even when these pregnancies have been as a result of sexual intercourse with a grown man who does not think he should marry or that the girl he is involved with is a wife material, the woman or girl still bear more of the brunt.
There is no justifiable reason to abandon a girl when she has gotten pregnant. It takes a man and a woman to get pregnant. Most people including the men who did the act would blame the woman or girl for allowing herself to get pregnant.
Parents and communities and social groups should teach their men responsibility especially as it pertains to sexual intercourse. They should encourage men responsible for pregnancies - in and out of wedlock - to take responsibility. This act would reduce the trauma and reproach of the woman and save the society a lot of the troubles that come with children resulting from unwanted or unplanned pregnancies. The boy and girl or man and woman involved should be encouraged to marry and parents and society at large should help them settle. The responsible management of these occurrences would reduce the multiplication of hoodlums and social misfits in our society.
Pregnancy, childbirth and rearing are projects ordained for two people - husband and wife, legally and lawfully wedded. The families, the schools and the Church should start teaching sexual responsibility and remove the silence which is sounding very loud as a voice of acquiescence to the reckless sexual activities of people - men and women, boys and girls and some who are still children.
The tag of modernity, signs of the times and etc, does not justify premarital and extramarital sex in any way at all, especially as we view sexual intercourse from the position of responsibility.
Francis Nmeribe helps people who desire a joyful relationship in their dating, courtship and marriage relationships. He is the author of numerous great relationship articles and books including - "Foundation For Joyful Relationships", "Wrong Reasons For Getting Married". Subscribe to the RSS Feeds and get a free copy of the Ebook version of "Wrong Reasons For Getting Married" at http://www.successpublishers.com.ng/.
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